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90-Minute Workshop

The Essentials of SafER Sex

Fearless, Aware, and Protected

by Christopher Zacharie

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Workshop Goals

Shift from fear-based to freedom-based sexual health
Learn basic safER sex communication skills
Discover the MATCH Framework
Identify actionable next steps
Connect to resources and support

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90-Minute Agenda

⏱️ 0-10 min - Welcome & Icebreaker

⏱️ 10-25 min - Mindset of Protection

⏱️ 25-40 min - Communication Essentials

⏱️ 40-65 min - MATCH Framework Deep-Dive

⏱️ 65-85 min - Personal Planning & Next Steps

⏱️ 85-90 min - Closing & Resources

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Part I

Mindset of Protection

Own Your Health

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Own Your Health

"SafER sex starts with YOU — self-care, self-love, self-respect"

Key Concepts:

Prevention begins with self-care
No single tool is 100% — use combination prevention
Choose freedom over fear

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Fear vs. Freedom

😰 Fear-Based

Avoid sex
Shame & anxiety
"Don't do that"
Judgment

💪 Freedom-Based

Informed choices
Confidence & pleasure
"Here's how to do it safER"
Empowerment

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Part II

The Erotic Art of Communication

Say It Out Loud

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Why Communication Matters

"If you can talk about sex, you can protect yourself during it."

The Three Fears:

😟 Fear of rejection
😔 Fear of judgment
😬 Fear of killing the mood

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Conversation Starters

💬 "I care about both of us, so I want to talk about protection."

💬 "When was your last STI test? Mine was [date]."

💬 "I'm on PrEP. Are you comfortable sharing your status?"

💬 "What makes you feel safe during sex?"

⚡ Activity: Practice in Pairs

Choose one script and practice saying it out loud with a partner.

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The MATCH Framework

Your Personal SafER Sex Strategy

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The MATCH Framework

M Medications

A Awareness

T Tools

C Communication

H Habits

"SafER sex isn't about one single choice — it's about finding the right combination that works for YOU."

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M = Medications

Medical shields you can use:

PrEP - Daily pill, >99% effective against HIV
PEP - Emergency medication within 72 hours
ART - Treatment that makes HIV undetectable (U=U)
Doxy-PEP - Post-sex antibiotic for bacterial STIs
Vaccines - HPV, Hepatitis A & B

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A = Awareness

Know your status. Know your risks.

🩺 Regular testing - HIV & STIs every 3-6 months
💭 Status conversations - "When was your last test?"
🧠 Risk assessment - Understand transmission risks
📊 Know your numbers - Viral load, CD4 count (if HIV+)

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T = Tools

Physical barriers that protect:

🎈 Condoms - External & internal (98% effective when used correctly)
🟦 Dental dams - For oral sex on vulva or anus
🧴 Lube - Reduces friction, prevents condom breakage
🧤 Gloves - For manual play, fisting

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C = Communication

Talk before, during, and after:

💬 Before - Status, boundaries, what feels good
💬 During - Check in, adjust, consent is ongoing
💬 After - Debrief, plan for next time
💬 Always - Honest, open, without shame

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H = Habits

Routines that keep you protected:

📅 Regular testing - Set calendar reminders
💊 Daily PrEP - Take at same time every day
🧼 Toy cleaning - Before & after every use
🩹 Harm reduction - "Good enough" beats perfection

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⚡ Activity: Your MATCH

Personal MATCH Planning (10 minutes)

On paper or phone, answer:

M: What medications will I explore?
A: When is my next test?
T: What tools do I need to buy?
C: What will I say to my partner(s)?
H: What's one routine I'll start?

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Next Steps

What you can do TODAY:

📅 Schedule an STI test - Find a clinic near you
💊 Ask about PrEP - Talk to your doctor or visit a clinic
🛒 Buy supplies - Condoms, lube, dental dams
💬 Practice scripts - Say them out loud in the mirror
📚 Learn more - Read the full ebook "Fearless, Aware, and Protected"

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Resources

Hotlines (U.S.):

📞 CDC Info Line: 1-800-232-4636

📞 HIV/AIDS Hotline: 1-800-CDC-INFO

Websites:

🌐 cdc.gov/hiv - Testing & PrEP info

🌐 prepstatus.org - PrEP locator

🌐 plannedparenthood.org - Sexual health services

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"Plan now, so protection feels natural later."

Thank you for being here.

Questions?

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You are Fearless.

You are Aware.

You are Protected.

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